Roommates who value and exercise mutual respect and consideration for one another are much more likely to have a successful and lasting roommate relationship. An integral part of community living is learning to resolve concerns and issues in an appropriate and effective manner. Dealing with conflict as a student can be challenging, especially when the conflict is with someone you interact with each day. When trying to address a concern, or resolve a conflict, here are some things to keep in mind:
- Get to know your roommate and neighbors. This will help you anticipate each other's individual needs and schedules, and encourage cooperative behaviors.
- Be respectful of the personal belongings and space of others, and encourage the same respect towards your space and property.
- When a conflict arises, talk with the other party regarding your concerns. Chances are they may not even know their behaviors are affecting you.
- Try not to procrastinate resolving the problem... avoiding conflicts usually means they will escalate and become more difficult to address later.
- Find a time and place when and where you will both be able to comfortably and openly discuss your concerns.
- If you are living on campus, become familiar with housing policies, procedures, and resources available to you within your residence hall.
- For on-campus residents—Resident Assistants, Resident Directors, Cooperative Directors, Camp Scholar Interns, Community Relations Facilitators, Residence Hall Associations, and the University Ombuds Office
- For off-campus residents—the University Ombuds Office