Presented by the Center Against Rape and Domestic Violence
1 in 4 girls, 1 in 7 boys will experience some form of sexual abuse. More than 80% of the time it's someone the child knows.
How do you talk to your kids about these things?
Acknowledge and respect when your kids tell you "no" when you're tickling them, to reinforce the stop response. Let your family members know that your working with your kids on their personal safety so they can respect the child's choice without getting their feelings hurt.
Often sexual abuse is a gradual incline, with the abusers testing and pushing the boundaries each time. If a child can say no at the beginning, they can likely stop the abuse.
Also, give clear instructions on what they should do in certain situations, "If somebody touches your crotch, you tell them NO and come and tell me right away."
Abusers often tell their victims to keep the abuse a secret, that it's something special between just the two of them.
What are things to look for:
Indirect statements, "the babysitter and I have a secret", "Mr. Jones has polka dots on his shorts"
Tricks bribes threats
Interest in genitals
Knowledge of sex beyond years
Afraid of a particular place or a particular person
Loss of appetite
Increase of appetite
Suddenly turning against one parent
*These behaviors aren't exclusive to abuse. But if a child is experiencing them, you should find out why.
Children who are at a higher risk:
Have less information
Have little sense of power
When a child confides, use the BASER method: