Values of Fraternity and Sorority Members

Things You Should Learn as a New Member:

  • The PURPOSE of your organization.
  • The VALUES of your organization.
  • Which ACTIVES are committed to living 1 and 2.
  • How to chair a house committee.
  • How to work with alumni.
  • The HISTORY of your organization.
  • Who your personal ROLE MODELS are & why.
  • How to successfully recruit.
  • RESPECT IS A GIFT WE ALL MUST EARN.
  • How to properly use the LIBRARY/CAREER SERVICES/THE ALUMNI CENTER & THE GREEK COORDINATOR’S OFFICE.
  • How to SING and know WHY we sing.
  • How to lead an event that satisfies risk management needs.
  • How to resolve conflict without violence or shouting.
  • How to speak in public.
  • What the seven rules of writing are and how they can help you get a better job.
  • How to confront a member who is not meeting their obligations.
  • That it is up to you to make your chapter stronger.
  • How to facilitate positive change in your life, your chapter and your world.
  • The only tradition is the tradition of the rituals.
  • Everything/everyone can be improved with time and love.
  • LOVE is what FRATERNITY/SORORITY means.
  • The chapter needs you more than you need the chapter.
  • The name and contact person of your National Office. You should call or write them at least twice before initiation.
  • All pre-initiation activity should be of a reflective nature. There is no need for fear/intimidation/physical activity or sleep deprivation.
  • Membership is a journey, not a destination. The real work starts after initiation.
  • There is NO SUCH STATUS AS JUNIOR ACTIVE OR ANY OTHER FORM OF SECONDARY STATUS. ONCE INITIATED, YOU ARE ENTITLED TO FULL AND IMMEDIATE PRIVILEGES. IF NOT – CALL YOUR HEADQUARTERS TO CONFIRM THE REALITY.
  • THERE ARE ACTIVES WHO ARE NOT GOOD MEMBERS. LEARN WHO THEY ARE AND AVOID THEM.
  • IF YOU ARE UNDERAGE AND DRINK AT A CHAPTER EVENT, YOU HAVE PLACED THE LIFE OF YOUR CHAPTER IN JEOPARDY. ANY ACTIVE WHO OFFERS OR ENCOURAGES YOU TO DRINK HAS ABANDONED YOUR CHAPTER’S RITUAL AND BELIEFS.
  • Always know how to find the centers of influence in a group.
  • How to participate in Semester at Sea, etc., and then go.
  • How to discover the fear that is the underlying source of all anger and hatred.
  • Learn how to disapprove of the behavior, not the individual.
  • Uncover your special gift and then nurture it and share it.
  • CONTROL IS AN ABSOLUTE ILLUSION !!!!!!!!!!!!
  • BY-LAWS NEVER OVERRIDE THE RITUAL.
    • STATE LAW
    • UNIVERSITY POLICY
    • REASON
  • Your job is to find people better than you and get them in your chapter. Always remember that and never treat them with anything short of love, devotion and respect.
  • If alumni come over to drink and tell war stories – learn how to ask them to help you with your career over a cup of coffee.
  • Never trust anything anyone tells you once they have had a sip of alcohol or any mind-altering substance (pot/cocaine/etc.)
  • If men – you should learn how to shop and cook; If women – you should learn how to fix a flat and basic car repair costs.
  • How to dance the Tango/Waltz/Flamenco.
  • How to establish and keep good credit.
  • How to buy a house/life insurance/diamonds/business.
  • How to invest in the stock market/commodities.
  • Meet the University President, City Mayor, etc.

ALL TRUE FRATERNITY & SORORITY PEOPLE:

  • Cut no more than one class a week.
  • Earn a 3.0 GPA.
  • Know the meaning of their name.
  • Have a mission/purpose in life.
  • Have written goals they keep with them.
  • Commit random acts of kindness.
  • Remove their hat for ritual and class.
  • Have a list of 100 goals for their lives.
  • Have an adult mentor.
  • Always play fairly and cleanly.
  • Respect all Greek chapters and their members.
  • Have a job before graduation.
  • Help clean their chapter house, pay their bills on time, serve on committees, and have constant interaction with alumni their entire time in the undergraduate chapter.
  • Practice sober/safe sex 100% of the time.
  • Always look for the good in others.
  • Always help new members without raising their voice or requiring foolish acts.
  • Lead by example.
  • Seek solutions as opposed to finding someone to blame.
  • Always praise publicly and reprimand privately.
  • Always tell the truth.
  • Obey their oath of membership and require it of all who belong to their chapter.
  • Practice “team” on a daily basis.
  • Stand up for what is right, not what is popular.
  • Understand the true benefits of membership come after college.
  • Are good citizens and uphold the law.
  • Are proactively humble, patient and loving.

TEN REASONS FACULTY MEMBERS HATE “US”

  • We wear hats to class.
  • We don’t take showers before we come to class.
  • The only day we choose to wear our fraternity sportswear is on the above-mentioned days. And when we make the choice to make t-shirts or party favors, the ones we wear are very alcohol-centered and/or sexist, racist, and homophobic.
  • We typically are not prepared for class because the social and/or intramural calendar does not allow us ample time for studying.
  • We fall asleep in class. (Especially the pledges that we have kept up all night the night before, but then demand that they wear their letters.)
  • The only things they read about us are in Newsweek, the campus newspaper, and/or the stalls in the restrooms.
  • We don’t attend class regularly.
  • We ask if we missed anything important on the days we skip class.
  • We don’t have any toes because we have shot ourselves in the foot so many times.
  • Bottom line – we are not delivering on what our founders said were the important things of fraternity and the faculty are going to hold us accountable until we do.

M. Hayes, 1995
AFA President
Director of Alumni Affairs
Indiana State University

FOR IT IS WRITTEN:

Human history becomes more and more a race between education and catastrophe. - H. G. Wells

All that is valuable in human society depends upon the opportunity for development afforded an individual. - Albert Einstein

No great idea ever entered the human mind through an open mouth. - Unknown

73% of injuries resulting in lawsuits happen in Greek houses.
59% brought by members.
90% of fights, sexual assaults, etc., involve alcohol.
88% of all injuries involve alcohol.
81% of all paralyses involve alcohol.
78% of all psychological damage involves alcohol.
66% of all serious injuries involve alcohol.
ALL ARE MINORS - as reported by HARRIS & HARRIS